The Rolling Stone: Albert Clayton Romine

My great-grandfather through his daughter.

Albert Clayton, whose name was written down most often as A.C., Romine was born on August 15, 1898, in the tiny town of Frisco, Stoddard County, Missouri. His father Edward Romine was a farmer, his mother Fanny Grace’s family farmed just down the street, as did his grandfather Samuel Romine.

Fanny likely died when AC was 3 years old. His father married Louella Cunningham Rayborn in 1902. In future records, she is listed as his mother. However, on his application for Social Security, AC lists Fanny as his mother in his own writing.

Albert married Elizabeth Minnie Lewis on August 16, 1917 in Parma, Missouri. A year later, his WWI Draft card lists Elizabeth as his wife and his father as his employer in a timber company. Unfortunately, A.C. didn’t stick around long enough to raise their three children.

A.C. Romine’s WWI Draft card

In 1920, Elizabeth is found in the census living with her parents in Parma, Missouri. Clayton is nowhere to be found. His being missing from records becomes a theme.

Clayton Romine of Parma was brought to New Madrid Saturday…and lodged in jail to serve a sentence of six months for wife abandonment… Sikeston (MO) Standard, 2 Sep 1921.

Elizabeth and Clayton divorced even though he never appeared in court when he was called to. He marries Mellie Herndon Zinzel in New Madrid County, Missouri, in 1932.

The Weekly Record (New Madrid, MO) 28 Mar 1926, p 8. Newspapers.com

He can’t be found anywhere in the 1920 and 1930 census. In the 1940 census, A.C., Mellie, and stepdaughter Helen Zinzel live in East Prairie, Missouri, just north of New Madrid. Considering AC can be found in the Flint City Directory in 1939 and 1941 living in Flint, it seems like he moved around a lot. Probably to follow work.

An address he tended to go back to every two or three years was 1311 2nd Avenue in Flint. This is the house his father had bought when they first moved to the area. His stepbrothers and stepsisters are often listed there too.

Of all my relatives, A.C. has the widest variety of occupations. He works as a foreman in auto factories, on farms as a teamster, in lumberyards for his father, and as a cook in a restaurant. This last job is one he shared with his daughter, my grandmother.

A.C., probably working at Thompsons Restaurant in Flint

A.C. probably moved to Detroit after his divorce from Mellie around 1945. In the Flint phone directory after this, Mellie claims she is Albert’s widow. I notice she still lives on 2nd Street with AC’s stepsister Amnier Craig’s family until her marriage to Roy Wood.

Flint City Directory, Flint MI, 1947

I can’t find him in any censuses or phone directories in Detroit. His obituary says he lived on Henry Street. He died of lung cancer on April 4, 1967. He was buried in Flint.

Obituary, The Flint Journal (Flint, MI), Apr 1967. Retrieved from Flint Public Library in 2019.

Sources

US Federal Censuses
(1900 – 1920, 1940)
Stoddard, New Madrid, and Mississippi Counties, Missouri. Accessed on Ancestry.com and Familysearch.org.

Application for Social Security Account Number
Albert Clayton Romine: 384-07-0921. Personal Records. Received from NARA.

Missouri, County Marriage, Naturalization, and Court Records, 1800-1991
U.S., Marriage Records, 1911-1914. New Madrid County, Missouri; Albert C Roumine [sic] and Elizabeth Lewis, p 418 of 493. Accessed on Familysearch.com.

“Divorces,” The Weekly Record (New Madrid, MO), 28 May 1926, p 9. Newspapers.com.

Missouri, County Marriage, Naturalization, and Court Records, 1800-1991
New Madrid County, Missouri; A. C. Romine and Mellie Opal Herndon [sic], p 275 of 950. Accessed on Ancestry.com.

U.S. WWI Draft Registration Card, 1917-1918. Albert Clayton Romine, New Madrid County, Draft Card R, 24-3-24 C. Accessed on Ancestry.com.

Michigan Department of Health, Divorce Record. Mellie Romine and Albert C. Romine. State Office number 25 14472. Personal Records.

Flint City Directories, 1935-1945. Accessed on Ancestry.com.

U.S. WWII Draft Cards Young Men, 1940-1947. Albert Clayton Romine, Michigan, Reed-Rossow. Accessed on Ancestry.com.

Michigan Certificate of Death.
Albert C. Romine as reported by Amnier Craig. Personal records. Certificates, 4860: Detroit (Michigan).

The Baker: Minnie Porterfield Wilson

My great-grandmother through her daughter, Bernice.

Minnie Mae Porterfield Wilson, my maternal great-grandmother, came into this world on May 29, 1885 in Hazelton Township, Shiawassee County, Michigan. She was the first of two children for Ellen Zendler and George Porterfield. Her brother John Wesley came along in 1889.

Minnie and John Wesley circa 1893

George was a farmer. The 1900 census states that he emigrated from Canada to the US in 1870, and that his father emigrated from Scotland. Ellen was also born in Canada, having emigrated in 1879 with her German father and English mother.

Another fact that sticks out on this census record is the name of her future husband and his family living a few houses away. I can only conclude they met because they were neighbors, or maybe they attended the same church. This area of Michigan is rural now; I imagine the closest neighbors during this time could be miles away.

She married Fred Wilson on December 25, 1906 at her parents’ house. Her uncle, Samuel Porterfield, a local Methodist minister, officiated the wedding.

“While At Wedding,” Flint Daily Journal (Flint, MI), 26 Dec 1906, p 1

The couple had three children: two daughters and a son. They stayed in Hazelton Township until 1917 or 1918, when the family is listed on Becker Street near Corunna Road in Flint. Two years later, they are in Flushing. I think Fred got a job at an auto plant and wanted to move closer to work. He continued to farm though when he lived in Flushing.

(l to r) Fred, Wilma, George, Bernice, and Ellen Wilson

Minnie and Fred lived in Flushing and Swartz Creek the rest of their lives: first on Dillon Road, then Beecher, then 2444 Seymour Road.

Bottom row: Wes Porterfield, Ersal Porterfield, Unknown girl, Unknown boy, George Porterfield, Charles Porterfield. Center: Bernice Wilson. Top: Ellen Porterfield, Minnie Wilson, Wilma Wilson, Unknown woman, Fred Wilson

In 1947, the family endured a tragedy when daughter Wilma, her husband, and two of their four kids died in a car crash. The two survivors of the crash lived with Fred and Minnie on the Seymour Road farm.

Minnie and Fred celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary on December 25, 1966. When Fred passed away on May 28, 1967, Minnie moved in with her daughter Bernice on Labian Drive in Flushing.

She passed on April 30, 1974, in Flushing at the age of 88 from heart failure. She was buried in Flushing City Cemetery. She was a member of the First Baptist Church of Flushing, the Fellowship Class, Golden Rule Missionary Society, and the Golden Age Organization of Owosso.

Notable Facts

Minnie Porterfield Wilson shouldn’t be confused with her cousin, Minnie Porterfield Barnes Canfield Robinson, the daughter of James and Teresa Boyce Porterfield, who lived nearby and was 2 years older.

My mother remembers going to Minnie’s house and seeing tons of baked goods in her kitchen.

Sources

Ontario Canada Births, 1869-1913
Archives of Ontario; Series: MS929; Reel: 11. Accessed on Ancestry.com.

Canada Censuses
(1881 – 1911)
Hibbert, Perth County, Ontario; Hensall, Huron County, Ontario. Accessed on Library and Archives Canada or Familysearch.org.

US Federal Censuses
(1920 – 1940)
Genesee County, Michigan. Accessed on Ancestry.com or Familysearch.org.

Ontario Canada Marriages, 1801-1928
(Archives of Ontario, MS932, Reel: 83)
Accessed on Ancestry.com.

US Border Crossings From Canada
National Archives and Records Administration; Washington, D.C.; Manifests of Passengers Arriving at St. Albans, VT, District through Canadian Pacific and Atlantic Ports, 1895-1954; National Archives Microfilm Publication: M1464. Accessed on Ancestry.com.

Michigan, Death Records, 1867-1950
File Number 011077. Accessed on Ancestry.com. Ordered on seekingmichigan.org now Michiganology.org. Personal records.

“Obituaries and Funeral Notices”,
Flint Journal, Flint, Michigan, September 24, 1946, Page: 18; Col 6; Item 7. Personal records. Accessed at Flint Public Library.

The William Harburn Family in Michigan”,
Flushing Sesquicentennial History 1835-1987, Flushing Area Historical Society (Michigan), Vol. 2 (1987). Page 166. Personal records.

Findagrave.com
“William M Harburn,” ID#62465870, Flushing City Cemetery, Flushing, Genesee, Michigan

Family Stories

The Farmer Mechanic: Fred Wilson

My maternal great-grandfather through his daughter.

Born to Ambrose Wilson and Lucy Thompson on August 4, 1882, Fred Newell Wilson was the third of five children who grew to adulthood living on a farm in Hazelton Township, Shiawassee County, Michigan.

The Wilsons had been in the state for just over a decade at Fred’s birth as his grandfather Thomas used his Civil War pension to move his family from near Rochester, New York, sometime between 1865 and 1870.

Hazelton Township and the village of New Lothrop just north of it were very small. So small that Fred and his future wife were mentioned numerous times separately in the newspaper.

Fred married his neighbor and likely his fellow parishioner Minnie Mae Porterfield on Christmas Day 1906. While at the wedding, his parents lost their barn in a fire.

They had three children: Bernice, Wilma, and George. By 1918, he and Minnie moved to Flint. On his WWI draft card, his employer’s name is Chevrolet Motor Co. and his occupation is “work on motors.” His physical assessment describes him as tall, medium weight, with black eyes and black hair. By 1920, the Wilsons lived in Flushing, a suburb of Flint.

(l to r) Fred, Wilma, George, Bernice, Minnie about 1920.

Fred had farmed for most of his life and, according to census records, continued to do so, to make ends meet. Frequent address changes in records seem to indicate that Fred had a house in Flint nearer the auto plant and kept a farm in Flushing as well, and the family split time between places.

By World War II, Fred is self employed and the family lived on a farm on Seymour Road in Flushing.

In 1947, the family endured a tragedy when Wilma, her husband, and two of their four kids died in a car crash. The two survivors of the crash lived with Fred and Minnie on the Seymour Road farm.

He and Minnie celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary on December 25, 1966. Fred passed away of a stroke on May 28, 1967 at age 84. He is buried in Flushing City Cemetery.

Notable Facts

In every record Fred, his wife, or his daughter filled out, they pointedly wrote Fred Newell Wilson as his full name. Not Frederick. If it was his given name, he clearly didn’t use it, so I don’t either.

Another note on Fred’s name: Apparently, the family pronounced Fred’s middle name Newell as “Noll.” It wasn’t until my mom saw it written out that she found out it wasn’t spelled Noel.

Sources

US Federal Censuses
(1870 – 1950)
Ontario County, New York; Shiawassee County, Michigan; Genesee County, Michigan. Accessed on Ancestry.com or Familysearch.org.

Michigan Birth Records, 1867-1902; Roll #4207042, Image 213 of 850. Accessed on Ancestry.com

Personal files. Application for Social Security, “Fred Newell Wilson.”Accessed from National Archives site.

Michigan Marriage Records, 1868-1925; Roll #4209085, Image 564 of 628. Accessed on Ancestry.com.

Military Draft Cards. WWI and WWII. Fred Newell Wilson. Accessed on Ancestry.com.

Michigan, Death Records, 1867-1950. Accessed on Ancestry.com.

City Directories 1918, 1931. Wilson, Fred N. (Flint, Michigan)

Obituaries, The Flint Journal (Flint, Michigan) 30 May 1967, p24, Col8, item 4. Accessed at Flint Public Library, 16 May 2019.

Findagrave.com
“Frederick Newell Wilson,” ID#64118849, Flushing City Cemetery, Genesee County, Michigan

Family Stories

The Two-Year Michigander: Edward Tennessee Romine

According to the 1900 census and his death certificate, Edward Tennessee Romine arrived as the second of six children in his family on June 17, 1871 somewhere in Missouri.

I can’t be more specific on his birthplace because I don’t trust the info on Edward’s death certificate. All the names on it are wrong. His wife Luella’s name is typed Lulia, and she was the informant. His parents names are listed as William and Lillian, which aren’t even close to Samuel Romine and Sisley Scruggs.

The troublesome death record.

I suspect Samuel was either an itinerant farmer or a sharecropper at this time. If he was itinerant, then Edward being born in “Slater, Mo”, as the record above states, is more likely. Slater is a town in the center of Missouri. As far as I know, the Romines had no ties there. But itinerant farmers go where the work is, so maybe they ended up there.

If Sam was a sharecropper, he more likely stuck near his parents and siblings in the northeast Arkansas and the Missouri boot heel.

In the 1870 census, the year before Edward was born, Sam and Sisley lived in Bradshaw, Greene County, Arkansas. The next child they had, Mary Cordelia, was definitely born in Stoddard County, Missouri and that’s where the family was ten years later. So I believe Edward’s birthplace is probably there. Plus it’s really easy for me to imagine that the person who heard “Sisley” and wrote “Lillian,” also heard “Stoddard” and wrote “Slater.”

Edward married Fannie Grace, a neighbor’s daughter, “at the bride’s residence” in 1894, and had two children by 1898: Delia and Albert Clayton. Albert’s records state he was born in Risco, Stoddard County, Missouri. The small family appears in Elk Township, Stoddard County, Missouri in 1900. Edward rented his house (as opposed to a farm) there, but his occupation is listed as Farmer. This renting a house but not living on a farm points to sharecropping. Not long after, Edward’s younger sister Mary married his brother-in-law Willard Grace, tying the two families further together.

Strummers in Risco, MO around 1910 (Stoddard County History)

Unfortunately, Fannie falls off the record after this. My theory is she died in childbirth soon after this census.

In 1910, the Romines consisted of Edward, his second wife Luella Cunningham Rayborn; their three children Ira, Iva, and Amnier; Lora Rayborn, Luella’s daughter from her first marriage; and Delia and Clayton. I’m not sure where the name Amnier came from or how to say it, but it’s consistently spelled this way on all of her records.

In addition to a new family, Edward’s status had improved in the past decade. He now owned a house without a mortgage near Parma, Missouri. This fact makes me think he was sharecropping with a family friend or relative. Itinerant farmers usually had a harder time making this kind of money so fast, especially with six children to feed.

The Parma Hotel (Stoddard County History)

In 1920, the family lived in Como Township, New Madrid County. So they moved once again. The youngest Romine, Thomas Rudolph, appears on this census. Edward worked in a veneer mill. His oldest children, Delia and Clayton, had married John Kindred and Minnie Lewis, respectively, and live nearby.

I cannot find them in the 1930 census. But in 1931, Edward, Luella, and Thomas appear in the city phone directory for Flint, Michigan. Perhaps they don’t appear in the 1930 census because they were moving at the time. Daughter Amnier married and moved up to Flint as well. Ira and Iva lived in Arkansas. Delia and Clayton in Missouri. That is until 1937 when Clayton also appears in the Flint phone book, which sets off a whole string of events in my family, but that is for another biography.

Edward died of heart disease (aortitis) and cirrhosis of the liver just two years later on August 2, 1933 at Hurley Hospital in Flint. His burial was in Sunset Hills Cemetery the following day.

Hurley Hospital, 1915, Flint, Michigan. Paul Petosky, genealogytrails.com
Edward’s death notice in the Flint Journal. The six grandchildren is incorrect. He had at least 12 grandchildren in 1933.

Notable Facts

Edward’s middle name, Tennessee, is his grandfather’s name also. It seems Tennessee Romine was named after the state in which he was born.

Currently, I don’t have any photos of Edward, or any of this family. If you’re reading this and are willing to share, I would love to see pictures!

Sources

US Federal Censuses
(1870 – 1920)
Greene County, Arkansas; Stoddard and New Madrid Counties, Missouri. Accessed on Ancestry.com or Familysearch.org.

U.S. City Directories
Michigan > Flint > 1931-1932, 1938 > Flint, Michigan, City Directory; p 619, 562, 772 respectively.
Accessed on Ancestry.com. (p 312 of 533, 284 of 495, 388 of 718 respectively in database.)

Missouri, U.S., Marriage Records, 1888-1895.
Stoddard County, Missouri, E T Romine and Fannie F Gran. p 445 of 501. Accessed on Ancestry.com.

Missouri, U.S., Marriage Records, 1880-1905.
Stoddard County, Missouri, E F Romine and L E Rayborn. p 159 of 492. Accessed on Ancestry.com.

Michigan Death Records. Edward T. Romine as reported by Lulia Romine. Personal records. Certificates, 1921-1945, 130: Genesee (Flint), 1931-1934.Accessible on Ancestry.

Edward T. Romine death notice. Flint Journal (Flint, Michigan), 2 Aug 1933, page illegible, Col 1, Item 10. Accessed at Flint Public Library 16 May 2019. Personal records.

Findagrave.com
“Edward T. Romine,” ID#149562621, Sunset Hills Cemetery, Genesee County, Michigan

The Canadian Florist: William Matthew Harburn

My great-grandfather through his son, Nelson.

The Canadian Florist

William Matthew Harburn was likely born on November 5, 1868, although documents vary widely on the exact date and year. This birthdate is on his naturalization papers, and therefore, most likely a direct quote from him. His parents, James and Sarah Sadler Harburn, lived in Hibbert Township, Perth County, Ontario at the time. Both are recorded as being born in England. William, their first son, was followed by five more children.

William married his neighbor and member of the same Wesleyan Methodist church Jane Leary in Hibbert Township in 1894, moved near Hensall, Ontario, and had 11 children, ten of whom survived to adulthood. William was a carpenter and flower farmer, providing area florists with product.

Jane Leary and William Harburn
The Harburn family around 1911
A closer view of William, seated, left

When he immigrated to Flint, Michigan, on August 8, 1919, by boarding a train on the Grand Trunk Railroad, he had his wife and younger children. Two of the older Harburn children had come to Flint a year earlier to prepare for the large family’s arrival.

The Grand Trunk Railroad Depot in Flint, MI in 1917. Paul Petosky, genealogytrails.com

In Flint, William ran another flower farm, this time for the Chevrolet plant downtown. The Teddy Roosevelt environmentalists were concerned about the factory polluting the Flint River, so the Harburns set up a farm along it to prove the water was “fine” (Spoiler: It was not fine.). He then ran a goods store at 1411 Third Avenue, Flint, for many years. At some unknown point, he and Jane befriended my grandmother’s parents. I couldn’t verify whether they were friendly before the marriage or got closer after. The Harburns and the Wilsons lived down the street from one another.

William and Jane later in life

William retired in Flushing, Michigan, in 1935, and passed away on November 24, 1940, of heart disease. He is buried in Flushing City Cemetery.

Notable Facts

Matthew, William’s middle name, is a legacy name for several generations in this family.

The flower gardening and florist skills passed down a generation. William’s daughter Jane owned and ran the florist shop in Flushing, Michigan for many years. My grandfather, Nelson, grew dahlias, his favorite flowers, in his garden.

Sources

Canada, Wesleyan Methodist Baptismal Register, 1828-1910
Hibbert, Perth County, Ontario. Accessed on the internet at freepages.rootsweb.com

Canada Censuses
(1871 – 1911)
Hibbert, Perth County, Ontario; Hensall, Huron County, Ontario. Accessed on Library and Archives Canada or Familysearch.org.

US Federal Censuses
(1920 – 1940)
Genesee County, Michigan. Accessed on Ancestry.com or Familysearch.org.

Ontario Canada Marriages, 1801-1928
(Archives of Ontario, MS932, Reel: 83)
Accessed on Ancestry.com.

United States of America Declaration of Intention
National Archives. Records on file

US Border Crossings From Canada
National Archives and Records Administration; Washington, D.C.; Manifests of Passengers Arriving at St. Albans, VT, District through Canadian Pacific and Atlantic Ports, 1895-1954; National Archives Microfilm Publication: M1464. Accessed on Ancestry.com.

Michigan, Death Records, 1867-1952
Certificates 1921-1945; 121: Genesee 1934-1942. Accessed on Ancestry.com.

“Obituaries and Funeral Notices”,
Flint Journal, Flint, Michigan, November 25, 1940, Page: 17; Col 4; Item 1. Personal records. Accessed at Flint Public Library.

The William Harburn Family in Michigan”,
Flushing Sesquicentennial History 1835-1987, Flushing Area Historical Society (Michigan), Vol. 2 (1987). Page 166. Personal records.

Findagrave.com
“William M Harburn,” ID#62465901, Flushing City Cemetery, Flushing, Genesee, Michigan

Family Stories

The Florist’s Wife: Jane Leary Harburn

My great-grandmother through her son, Nelson.

Jane Lavina Leary Harburn, my maternal great-grandmother, came into this world on January 8, 1873, at Cromarty, Huron County, Ontario, which is a speck of a village west of London. She was the fifth of six children born to George and Jane Crawford Leary.

The Leary Family

Her parents, immigrants from Lincolnshire, England, were the first to live on a parcel of land owned by Jane’s uncle, John Crawford.

In 1894, Jane married her neighbor and fellow Methodist parishioner William Harburn, a flower farmer and florist, in Hibbert Township, moved near Hensall, Ontario, the white bean capital of Canada, and had 11 children, ten of whom survived to adulthood.

Young Jane and William Harburn
The Harburn family around 1911

She immigrated to Flint, Michigan, on August 8, 1919, by boarding a train on the Grand Trunk Railroad with her husband and eight of her children. Her two older sons had immigrated to Flint a year earlier to prepare for the large family’s arrival.

I cannot find much information on Jane as an individual, unfortunately. She helped her husband with the flower farms and later the small grocery store attached to their home in Flint. She raised her many children, who by all accounts, were close-knit their entire lives.

William and Jane later in life

She retired in Flushing, Michigan, in 1935, and passed away at the home of her daughter, Jennie Bump, on Coutant Street on September 26, 1946, due to a stroke. She is buried in Flushing City Cemetery.

Notable Facts

Jane’s mother’s family, the Crawfords, are thought to be early settlers of Perth County, Ontario.

Jane is the namesake of several of her descendants. From all stories, she was a warm and giving woman.

Sources

Ontario Canada Births, 1869-1913
Archives of Ontario; Series: MS929; Reel: 11. Accessed on Ancestry.com.

Canada Censuses
(1881 – 1911)
Hibbert, Perth County, Ontario; Hensall, Huron County, Ontario. Accessed on Library and Archives Canada or Familysearch.org.

US Federal Censuses
(1920 – 1940)
Genesee County, Michigan. Accessed on Ancestry.com or Familysearch.org.

Ontario Canada Marriages, 1801-1928
(Archives of Ontario, MS932, Reel: 83)
Accessed on Ancestry.com.

US Border Crossings From Canada
National Archives and Records Administration; Washington, D.C.; Manifests of Passengers Arriving at St. Albans, VT, District through Canadian Pacific and Atlantic Ports, 1895-1954; National Archives Microfilm Publication: M1464. Accessed on Ancestry.com.

Michigan, Death Records, 1867-1950
File Number 011077. Accessed on Ancestry.com. Ordered on seekingmichigan.org now Michiganology.org. Personal records.

“Obituaries and Funeral Notices”,
Flint Journal, Flint, Michigan, September 24, 1946, Page: 18; Col 6; Item 7. Personal records. Accessed at Flint Public Library.

The William Harburn Family in Michigan”,
Flushing Sesquicentennial History 1835-1987, Flushing Area Historical Society (Michigan), Vol. 2 (1987). Page 166. Personal records.

Findagrave.com
“William M Harburn,” ID#62465870, Flushing City Cemetery, Flushing, Genesee, Michigan

Family Stories

The Merry Inn Bar

My father told me his Aunt Eva James Burns and her husband Ralph Burns had their hands in many businesses. Ralph was invited to drive in the opening parade of the Mackinaw Bridge, the bridge that connects the lower and upper peninsulas of Michigan, because his company supplied concrete materials that were used to build it.

Ralph Burns’s obituary* states that he retired from Catsman, which was a conglomerate “of real estate, coal, fuel oil and concrete companies” owned by millionaire Samuel Catsman. I would assume this is the company that supplied concrete to build the Mackinaw Bridge but I have not verified.

The Burnses had a small conglomeration of their own, investing in a market, restaurants, and bars around the Flint area. Here is Aunt Eva at the MerryInn Bar that had been on Franklin Street. It became a gay bar with the same name in the early 2000s.

*Obituary of Robert Burns, Flint Journal (Flint, MI), 26 Nov 1987, personal records.

Filling In the Blanks

I don’t know the stories of most of the family photos I have because my father didn’t know his family. My mother’s family were the stoic Midwestern types who didn’t linger much in the past. And my mother was born late in my grandparents’ lives so by the time she was interested in family history and genealogy, many of the older generations were gone.

For that reason, going through Mom’s family albums or discovering pictures on the Internet of Dad’s family always involves some sort of filling in the blanks on who is in it, where and when it was taken, and why.

For example, this is my favorite photo of my maternal great-grandparents, William Harburn and Jane Leary Harburn.

William and Jane picnicking?

I like it because it feels like a lot of convincing happened before the camera clicked. Jane’s If-I-Have-To look and William’s self-conscious stance.

I also like it because they look so modest and genuine. It’s like they were comfortably visiting with the camera person, who I imagine was one of their ten children, maybe having some nice potato salad, talking about the doings of the last church social, and then a camera is pulled out and Jane pulls her cardigan a little tighter around her shoulders before heaping her hands in her lap, and William seems to be waiting for the click so he can go grab the last piece of Apple Brown Betty sitting on the far picnic table.

As far as when and where it was taken, all I have are educated guesses. William passed in 1940 at the age of 73, and he seems solidly in his late sixties here, so I think this was taken sometime in the 1930s. They seem to be sitting in a park. The background of the photo slopes up. At the time they lived in Flushing, Michigan, a suburb of Flint, which happens to be my hometown. The only park I know with a rise like that is Flushing County Park near the high school.

Based on their clothing, this might be a get-together after church. William made his living in dirt and gardens; he grew and sold flowers to the florist shops in town, several of which were owned by his children at various points. My point is if this were a casual social event he’d be wearing overalls. Jane is wearing a thick cardigan, but the trees behind them are robust with leaves, so perhaps it is late April or early May.

Like I said, it’s a guessing game. Those I could ask are long gone, unfortunately. Still, the photo does a good job of providing clues.

Aunt Eva’s Hands

This is the first photograph that I ever saw of my grandfather, Ralph James.

He is standing next to his older sister, Eva, in her kitchen in Flint, Michigan, sometime in the 1950s. Their youngest brother, Bill, who is visiting from Virginia, stands beside them.

If you knew my father—and to a lesser degree, me—you would instantly recognize the man on the right as our ancestor. That smirk, the way he pulls down his chin and sets his jaw, is exactly how my father smiles when a camera is pointed at him or after he says something he finds particularly witty. The half-moons under his eyes reflect back to me every night when I look in the mirror. His one bony knuckle at the base of his middle finger is my one bony knuckle.

It’s easy to understand why this photo was special to me when I received it. But I’d like to tell you why it’s still special to me a decade later.

As I mentioned, I had never seen my grandfather before receiving this photo. At the time it was taken, Ralph James was father to 4 children, none of whom he had custody over. His eldest daughter lived with her mother, Ralph’s first wife, in Iowa. Ralph’s younger children—my father and his siblings—were taken by the courts when they were small.

As an adult, Dad didn’t know much about Ralph. He knew Ralph was from Council Bluffs, Iowa, because Aunt Eva, the woman in the photo, had maintained a distant relationship with him as he grew up. Its with that information that I started researching the rest of the family.

Over the years, I’ve found out Ralph’s father, Noah, had also been an alcoholic. Noah spent his meager income as a cabinet maker getting blitzed, forcing his wife to scramble in order to feed their eight children. The kids went hungry often. Newspaper articles informed me that Ralph’s first wife had divorced him twice for domestic abuse. When I told Dad that, he said he did remember Ralph getting rough with his mother. A cousin recently told me that Ralph’s eldest daughter traveled to Flint about the time that this photo was taken. When she returned from that trip, she decided to never talk to Ralph again. In 1972, Ralph died penniless, forcing my dad, who had remained estranged from him, to pay for the burial.

The more research I did, the worse Ralph looked. Arrests, abandonment, blame. There were so many reasons to believe he was a broken, miserable soul. I convinced myself he was a loser, and he very well might have been.

But take a look at the photo again.

Find Eva’s hands.

See how tightly she’s clutching Ralph’s waist? See how my grandfather’s hand rests on his brother’s shoulder? There was love there.

As I mentioned, I know that look on my grandfather’s face. I’ve seen it on my dad’s face; I’ve probably made it myself.

Actually, I know I have. It’s the face I make when I’m proud. And that’s why this photo has remained special to me over the years. In that moment . . . with his family . . . Ralph James, my derelict grandfather, was proud. He was wanted. With this image, there is a possibility in my mind that he was more than the papers I’ve dug up on him and the stories I’ve heard. Oh, he made unforgivable mistakes, absolutely. His decisions or his lack of making decisions very much shaped my father’s life. And my own. Thankfully, it turned out positively for me and my brothers. Because of Ralph, my father set a goal to be present and reliable, to swear off drinking. A goal Ralph could never manage in his 66 years on this planet. Though, I should mention, toward the end he tried to fix things with my dad. He did try.

But back to the photo and that smirk on Ralph’s face. Back to the fierceness with which his sister clutches him. The camera captured them in dual acts of defiance. Their eyes speak volumes: “Yeah. Go ahead and take my picture. Let people judge me. Who are they to me, anyhow? My family still stands beside me, and the world can’t possibly know what we’ve been through.”